The adventures of this tiny lady has a +1 these days. After 10 years of travelling solo, or with friends, I finally found a partner who loves to travel and explore just as much as me. We’ve taken 4 trips together so far and I’ve learned many new things along the way – about me, about him, and about us, as we take on the world. But more importantly, about everything that travel gives you a chance to learn as a couple. Here are a few I’ve listed:

You can be adaptive and agile:

Travelling away from the comforts of your home serves as the primary test on adaptability. Not being around a familiar environment or simply being faced with the unexpected, tests how well you can cope in situations. You want to be with somebody who is able to adapt well when situations change unexpectedly. If you lose your luggage, or miss a connecting flight, or get sick during your travel expedition, these are the perfect opportunities to observe how your significant other reacts. See if they step up, take control of the situation, and deal with these problems – an important characteristic to have when considering the future of your relationship. An ultimate test of whether you’re able to trust your life in this person’s hands. We’ve had to take care of each other while being ill, and also had to find ways to entertain each other whenever our flights were delayed.

You can make unforgettable memories and stories:

Damian loves quoting this Doctor Who line “We’re all stories, in the end. Just make it a good one, eh?” And i couldn’t agree more! Talk, laugh, eat, experience – do everything you want to do and do it together. It’ll someday be a story to tell your friends or your kids. Travel memories created last a lifetime, and these are moments that you will love, cherish and treasure forever.

You each have your own exploration pace:

It’s important to know if your partner matches your pace at exploration. While a balance can be found by indulging in a day filled with fast paced activities and planning timely coffee breaks in between, it’s always good to check on how they’re holding up. Even better if you each run your plans by each other before the day starts. The pace at which they live their life needs to match yours in order for your relationship to work.

Date nights can be very romantic:

Romantic experiences are just waiting to happen, from dining in caves to walking hand in hand, by candlelight, to discover Petra by night, or even picking the catch of the day for your dinner on a houseboat. Date nights can be much more exciting when you travel.

As much as you both need your own space, you also need to make each other feel special. You’ll get used to the same baggy clothes, messy beach hair and lack of makeup but girls, once in awhile it’s worth it to put on that pretty dress and boys, it’s worth it to buy her flowers and take her out to do or experience something you’ve never done before. It’s all about making that effort. Make sure you treat each other every now and then. It’ll keep the sparkle going.


It’s possible to hit mutual exhaustion

Travel makes for a perfect opportunity to test your limits when you are exhausted. Travelling with your partner will involve shifting of time zones, jet-lag and fatigue. You will be able to see how much you can tolerate each other on two hours of sleep. Delayed flights, delayed baggage, and long queues are just the tipping point while travelling. You’ll be able to gauge their patience levels while dealing with situations like this. It’s also a personal test to see if you have the patience to deal with your partner when they lose theirs.

Damian somehow brings balance to my frenzy and stays positive through thick and thin, and on rare occasions when he’s super tired, I’ve noticed that he gets a little sarcastic with random stuff, so I lighten the mood and try to make him laugh.

You’ll learn to trust and rely on each other

Outdoor travel experiences with you partner, such as hiking and camping in the woods, will help turn you into a better team player. You’ll realise that home is where the heart is. and if it’s with him/her you’ll fall in love with the way you travel. You’ll indulge in simple joys of an afternoon nap on a flight/train knowing that they have your back.

A peek into their preparation mojo:

Observing your partner as he or she packs, plans and saves money for your vacation together can give you a rough insight into the way they handle some of the most important undertakings in your relationship. If organising a travel through India is enough to make your partner irritable and frantic, how do you think they’ll  handle life plans? We love our lists and plots and planning. Sometimes our Skype dates involve planning our next adventure. It’s almost vital to be on the same page while planning.

Travel allows you to talk, really talk.

You begin to understand each other on a whole new level. Whether it’s your views on Islamic traditions in a country or even your views on the perfect slice of cake. You’ll talk about everything and anything. It is what will see you through all you free time. And it helps assess his or her likes, views, opinions on the smallest things, and sometimes the biggest things, like life and the future.

Other Secret Perks Include:

  • Extra baggage space.
  • Unlimited kisses and cuddles.
  • Someone to split all your dessert calories with.

What are the things you’ve learned, while travelling with your partner?

And lastly, since travelling with your partner is a different kind of adventure, here’s a sneak peek at our first of many, through Kerala:

22 thoughts on “Everything you learn from travelling with a partner.

  1. Isa Jack says:

    So true! Its reminds me of me and my boyfriend, when we just started travelling! We have such a parallel mindset now. Thanks for writing! Keep it up!

    1. nickolai.kinny says:

      Glad you found it relevant :)

  2. James says:

    I want this! Play wing-man and introduce me to a girl that travels?

    1. nickolai.kinny says:

      Challenge accepted! ;)

  3. Sylvia says:

    I know that this boy is out there and that i will cross paths with him on one of my adventures! *Fingers Crossed*

    1. nickolai.kinny says:

      Good luck, make sure youre open and paying attention when he comes along ;)

  4. krist0ph3r says:

    i agree with you on all counts… reading this makes me feel so lucky… and make me eagerly look forward to much more!

    1. nickolai.kinny says:

      Yeah, it does make you value what you have :)

  5. Zara Mathews says:

    As a traveller and a lover I totally agree to every tiny little word up there. People often say I dont really know him/her… I guess you guys havent travelled together. Travel is much more than just a place. Nick brilliant. The video was full of awww moments. God bless u both… Happy traveling

    1. nickolai.kinny says:

      Thank you, glad you enjoyed the post and video :)

  6. bellajones says:

    Its a True beauty of nature, Awesome pics shared, thanks for sharing the post among your readers..

  7. Mathumithira says:

    Very nice pictures. Thanks for sharing

  8. I have never been brave enough to travel alone and have always gone with family! I do love going away with my husband tho, you relax and can have a proper chat away from ‘reality’! x

  9. Kara says:

    Hubby and I haven’t done much travelling with just the two of us but as the kids get older we hope to

  10. Anosa says:

    Awww that’s really lovely and hope I meet someone who loves to travel as much as I do. It’s definitely something most of us solo travelers crave after a while

  11. I agree with all you have said here. Travelling with your partner is the best.

  12. Aww lovely. We go away as a family so Chris and I support each other in all activities to make the most of out time together

  13. Louise Smith says:

    Aww, it sounds fantastic to have a travel partner like this. And I think you’re so brave to even consider going travelling alone! I know it’s not something I’d be able to do :)

    Louise x

  14. Travelling is a great way to get to know somebody. What they are like under pressure (at airports) and how they view the world and different cultures. My mummy wishes she did more travelling with daddy before they had me x

  15. Ahhh I loved travelling just with my husband before our baby came along, but now our holidays have a new dimension as we share our exploring with our baby. Before that, I holidayed with my best friend – and that was a whole different kind of rollercoaster!

  16. Stephanie says:

    Ah what a lovely post, how lovely you have found your perfect companion to travel with

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