Sometimes certain things happen to us which causes us to take a step back and question our motives, question our choices and then eventually question ourselves and who we’ve become. These thing may not always happen when we are down and sad but sometimes when we are happy , only difference is that when we are happy we don’t realise our sub-conscious pointing out the flaw..Our happiness is enough to overpower the situation. Living alone has thought me various things i wouldn’t have learnt if i wasn’t..From how to stand on my own feet to, how to take decisions about my life in other words how to make the right choices. Before I start to sound like a saint I will confess that I’ve made my share of goof-ups and mistakes . I recently found out that I let myself down in a bigger way than i had imagined, there are things i shouldn’t have done and now I’m writing this blog-posts for all my friends who’s secrets are safe with me and for the ones who have secrets of their own that they may never share with anyone..you’re not alone! this one’s is for everyone who knows where their lives are at, who know the constant mistakes their making and still let them happen ! I want you to take charge… take a step back and question yourself is this where you’ve truly imagined your life to be at, in this point and time? Are you comfortable with the choices you’ve made? Are you comfortable under your own skin? If you’ve answered any of those questions with a “No”. It’s a beginning for a need…
Are you happy? And what are you doing about it?
A lot of us don’t realize that we are all being manipulated in some way to do things that may be harmful to us , either out of choice or by mass following and peer pressure .It’s easier to get drawn and sidelined to the things that cause us destruction..And eventually it’s easier to self destruct. You are loved for who you are but you’re making choices that hurt you! But you must go to yourself…sit yourself down and give yourself a mental talk.. Talk – Reason – Explain – Heal ! Vow to make a difference ,vow to take charge of you ! You owe it to yourself! Give yourself a talk…when was the last time you spoke to yourself..When was the last time you untangled yourself from the web you created? Do it now ! It’s never late. Find out why you made that mistake ! find out how you can keep from doing it again and then stick to it! A friend of mine once said to me “self-discipline is very hard to come by ,It’s not easy to reason with yourself ” But i Honestly think Self-discipline can be considered a type of selective training, creating new habits of thought, action, and speech toward improving yourself and reaching goals. Self-discipline can also be task oriented and selective. View self-discipline as positive effort, rather than one of denial.
Just remember :-
Do not be intimidated; do not be put off by the challenge
If you slip, remember this is natural
Take a break and then refresh the challenge
Once again this blog is dedicated to everyone who needs it right now..It’s not a post about how to self discipline yourself just a post for you to realise that you need it and it can pave the way to much greater things .You may be trying to quit smoking , or trying to forget about that one boy who hurt you , or taking yourself for granted by inculcating wrong eating habit etc . Self-discipline is a form of freedom. Freedom from laziness and lethargy, freedom from the expectations and demands of others, freedom from weakness and fear—and doubt. Self-discipline allows a pitcher to feel his individuality, his inner strength, his talent. He is master of, rather than a slave to, his thoughts and emotions. If you know someone who does need to read this please send them a copy.
I will leave you with a few quotes..
“The first and best victory is to conquer self.”
— Plato
“A man without decision of character can never be said to belong to himself . . . . He belongs to whatever can make captive of him.”
— John Foster
“If we don’t discipline ourselves, the world will do it for us.”
— William Feather
“Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.”
— Lao Tzu
i luv this post!!!!!!!!!
Maybe i’m too easy on my self, or maybe i’ve been lucky. but i’ve no regrets about anything i’ve done/not done, no matter what the motivation. when i look at myself with all my flaws, i still feel happy. do i need improvement? of course i do. do i need self discipline? probably more than anyone else i know. but i think the first step is to come to terms with the past. not just admit mistakes, but wholeheartedly accept that these mistakes were necessary, and that the lesson has been learned and will be used for the rest of my life.
for the most part, i feel no need to keep secrets either. my secrets are mainly kept out of the need to not offend the other people involved. if it was only up to me, i’d have ZERO secrets. it may make me look worse than everybody else, but it’s honest. and that’s a big burden off my back.
I guess, that’s the teaching of all religions as well. People being asked to Fast, Get up daily at a fixed time, daily prayers and rituals, follow a schedule for festivals etc. They actually wanted us to become self disciplined, more than anything else. I believe if the Discipline is firm, everything follows; from Material success to Salvation.